Shabbat Services are every Friday night at 7:30 pm Saturday morning at 10 am followed by Torah Study
“News and Views”
By Rabbi Michael Sternfield
Far too much has been written about the President’s condolence calls to families of U.S. servicemen who were killed in Niger. It would be wrong to comment on the actual words supposedly spoken. However, in a much broader sense, all of us have occasion to offer our condolences to families or friends in times of bereavement. These are invariably delicate situations when even the most heartfelt words unintentionally increase pain. Even after all these years, I still find these calls and visits to be difficult. I cannot even imagine how tough it must be for every President to call the loved ones who have died in the service of our nation.This is the best advice that all of us would do well to heed. “Don’t talk. Just listen.” It is not what we say to the mourner; it is our presence that matters. Those of us who have experienced loss remember all to well various the well-meaning comments that stung rather than offering solace.Here are a few of the unfortunate supposedly comforting words I have heard over the years. “At least he didn’t suffer . . .” “She lived a long life.” “I know just how you feel.” (No. You don’t.)“Time heals all wounds.” or “Time brings healing.”
A simple silent embrace conveys far more than even the most eloquent words.So what can we say that will help and not hurt? Judaism advises us well. In the house of mourning, say little but sit in silence with the bereaved. The words of our tradition are still the best: “May his/her memory be a blessing.”Far be it for me to offer advice to a President. But if I could, it would be the same counsel that I offer to ordinary people and that I try to follow. Especially when we have not known the deceased, simply ask: “What would you like for me to know about him/her?” Then just listen, not only with your ears, but with your heart.” This is the essence of “rachmanus,” simple compassion.
Before I conclude, here are two absoulute “don’ts”-Never leave a voicemail message.
Never send a sympathy note via the Internet! In fact, don’t even send a personal email. Especially, never use any of the manufactured electronic messages that we just download. They are as useless as the e-greeting cards that we sometimes receive on our birthdays. If the occasion is not worth the price of a postage stamp, then how sincere could it really be? The same applies many times over to sympathy notes.Times of bereavement can be blessings in disguise. We always recall those we had hoped to hear from but who failed to show up or connect personally. But far more important, we never forget those who were there for us and who listened with their hearts. These are the times when we learn who are real friends are.
Shalom, Rabbi Michael P. Sternfield
Rabbi Sternfield is available to meet with you for counseling, guidance or to discuss issues or concerns. He is also available for Jewish and interfaith weddings; funerals and memorial services, and other life cycle events.
Call the temple to make an appointment. 941-755-4900
The Rabbi would like to organize a thanksgiving dinner
for any of our members who are going to be on their own. Please call the Rabbi personally (312-320-5538) or email (Rabbimps@yahoo.com)
Membership in a synagogue represents a commitment to the community. It means that you are involved in keeping Jewish life alive and seeing it continue to the next generation. It also gives you a framework of giving and contributing to the Shul, and it means that you are a partner in supporting the financial needs of the Synagogue which we are all part of. If you are interested in joining Temple Beth El Bradenton, please contact Staci Rosenstein
TBE Members: Don't forget that you may pay your dues by credit card!
Please call the Temple office (941-755-4900) for more information!
Please help us welcome our newest members:
Michael Loewy and Susan Kurtin
Message from the President Dr. Robyn Spirtas
Shalom Temple family and friends,
The High Holidays were amazing in my opinion. Everyone worked so hard to make it a success and it was well worth it. What a great turnout we had! The services were all meaningful and beautifully done. It is so wonderful to be in our own beautiful sanctuary. The Temple board, men's club, Sisterhood, ritual committee and others are working hard to keep the momentum up. We have many wonderful events planned for the coming months that we hope you will join us for. We are striving to make TBE a place of community as well as prayer. Our Hebrew school has begun and we had three great kids attending. We are making plans for our best Downtown Chanukah and Family Menorah Lighting Chanukah ever. Please stay involved with us, we are a family!
Your TBE President,
* Please come to the special congregational meeting on Sunday, Nov 5th at the temple. 4:30 pm to vote on an important item regarding absentee ballots. We need your vote!
* Interested in helping your temple family? We need someone in the office from 9:30 - noon on Wednesday to answer phones, check mail, etc. Can you volunteer?
TBE Shabbat Services and Special Events:
Friday November 3rd: Erev Shabbat Service 7:30 pm
Saturday, November 4th: Shabbat Morning Service 10:00 am
Sunday, November 5th: Special congregational meeting 4:30 pm
Wednesday, November 8th: International Film Series 5:30 pm *Note new time!!
Friday, November 10th: Erev Shabbat Service 7:30 pm
Saturday, November 11th: Shabbat Morning Service 10:00 am
Monday, November 13th: TBE Chanukah Painting Party 2-4 pm
Wednesday, November 15th: Sisterhood Fashion Show
Wednesday, November 15th: 92nd Street Y on Demand! 7:00 pm
Friday, November 17th: Shabbat Live! Musical Shabbat & TORAH service 7:30 pm
Saturday, November 18th: Shabbat Morning Service 10:00 am
Saturday, November 18th: Havdalah 5:30 pm
Sunday, November 19th: Men's Club sponsored trip to the Holocaust Museum 11 am
Friday, November 24th: Erev Shabbat TORAH service 7:30 pm
Saturday, November 25th: Shabbat Morning Service 10:00 am
Wednesday, November 29th: TBE Board Meeting
There's more! Check out ALL the TBE EVENTS and details on the website- view in either list or calendar view. AND print for your records!! www.templebethelbradenton.com
Men's Club News
The Men at TBE had a wonderful "Men's Club Shabbat"
Thank you all who participated.
Join us for the Temple Beth El Men’s Club trip to
The Holocaust Museum Sunday, November 19th
The tour starts at 11:00 am. For those that wish to car pool and for those that are willing to drive please contact Neil Clark at 795-8922 as we will meet at the Temple at 10 am. Whether you are car pooling or meeting us at the museum you must RSVP to Neil at home or the temple by November 10th. The museum requires that we call them 1 week before with the number of people attending so that they know how many docent(s) to have. Cost will be $9 pp (18 + in age) if we have 15 attendees -$10 if less than 15 attendees, $7 pp (under the age of 18) Payable at the door of the museum. This trip is open to all – members, guests, families, friends.
Sunday, Dec. 10th - 9:30 am Men's Club meeting and breakfast at Fiona's
Sunday, Jan. 21st - Men's Club speaker (further information to follow - open to the congregation)
Sunday, Feb. 18th - 9:30 am meeting at breakfast at Fiona's
Friday, Feb. 23rd - Men's Club to meet for dinner prior to services (time and location TBA)
Sunday, March 4th - 4 pm Annual Men's Club Purim Celebration - celebrating "Israel at 70"
Sunday, April 15th - Men's Club meeting and trip to a baseball Game
Sunday, May 13th - Men' Club Mother's Day Brunch
We hope you will join us for an exciting year with the TBE Men's Club.
Neil Clark, Men's Club President
Shares from Sisterhood
Upcoming Event! Cabaret Musical Fashion Show
Time: 11:15 a.m. – 2:15 pm Topaz Fashion Outlet
1870 University Parkway, Sarasota
(intersection of SR 301 and University, suite 1850, southwest corner on University)
First 13 registrants ONLY may attend!
To Register: Must call synagogue (Tues-Thurs am only) and have your name
and phone # put onto list. You will be notified if you are NOT going to attend.
Among the plans being considered for the coming year are cooking with the Rabbi, our annual Sisterhood Shabbat but with a twist, and of course, our Chocolate Oneg. Once again the kitchen will present opportunities for volunteering either during weekly services or monthly events like the film night or Havdalah. The Co-Presidents will be seeking help from membership for other events as well. Presently there is an opening for a Secretary for Sisterhood, so if anyone wishes to have the easiest job of any within the entire TBE, this is it! Just make yourself known to either Jean or Marilyn, and feel free to direct questions to either of them as well. Both Jean and Marilyn welcome any ideas for speakers at our luncheons, or other ideas for monthly meetings. Do not hesitate to send email or phone either one. Jean may be reached at 941-747-2423 and Marilyn at 352-530-7725. Jean's email is email@example.com and Marilyn's is firstname.lastname@example.org.
Let the congregation share your joy or memory.
Please consider sponsoring an Oneg Shabbat in celebration or remembrance
Friday: Challah and wine $25; food $25 both $50
Saturday: Challah and Wine for Sat. morning. $25
Entire Shabbat, $75.00
Please make all checks payable to: Sisterhood, Temple Beth El
Memorial Plots are available from Temple Beth El. Located in Palmetto, Florida, Skyway Memorial Gardens has been serving the residents of Manatee County since 1952. The tranquility of Skyway ensures a peaceful resting place for years to come. Call TBE for more info on the "Garden of Abraham".
Monthly payment plans now
available through TBE.
Please remember TBE in your will,
there is no greater gift.
A project of the sisterhood is to feed the hungry. There is a food barrel in the foyer, waiting for your contribution. Please bring your nonperishable food items as often as possible. Hunger has no season.
HEBREW AND RELIGIOUS SCHOOL
Our Hebrew & Religious school is an interactive, hands-on teaching experience. We are currently enrolling children for both Religious and Hebrew School. If you are interested in registering your child for Religious school, please contact our Education Director, Susie Konicov, by calling the Temple office at 941-755-4900.
If you know an unaffiliated Jewish family with young children, who is looking for a shul, please tell them about us! We want to build our religious school and are looking for more students. Thanks for being a link.
Susie Konicov, Education Chair
ADULT HEBREW CLASSES ARE BACK!
If you are interested in learning how to read Hebrew or are interested in a Beginner's Hebrew Conversation class, call Temple Beth El at 941-755-4900. Participants in the Conversation class must read Hebrew proficiently.
The Temple Office
The TBE office is available to you or for your questions. We are typically open Tuesdays thru Thursday, 9:30 am - Noon. For Rabbi or Temple information or to RSVP for an event, please call the Temple office. 941-755-4900. The Office is located at Temple Beth El, 5150 Peridia Blvd E, Bradenton 34203. Please notate on your check what the monies are for ie: "donation", "dues". You can also find out information or RSVP to an event by going to www.templebethelbradenton.com/events
Got pocket change? Remember Pushke money? Put your change each day in a ziplock bag, then bring the bag to the Temple as a donation. Every little bit helps! It is a great way to get the kids to contribute too!
“It is a Tree of Life to those who hold fast to it.” Proverbs 3:18 Purchasing a leaf (or leaves) on our Tree of Life, is a wonderful way to mark and sanctify precious life events, such as: B’nai Mitzvah, engagements, weddings, birth of a child or grandchild, birthdays, anniversaries, or any special occasion. It is also a loving way to remember those who have gone before us. Call the TBE office for more info -
All Oneg requests must be registered through the Temple Office, and be placed in the special notebook requesting Onegs with the specific information regarding donor and memorial or honor persons' names spelled out carefully. Money for the Oneg or the entire Shabbat MUST be paid to Sisterhood TBE prior to the date of the Oneg, UNLESS prior arrangements are made to pay at another time. Call Marilyn Steinberg if there are any questions: 352-530-7725
The TBE 50's Sock Hop was wonderful! Thank you to the Sponsors:
Join us for a unique Chanukah Party on 11/13/2017 from 2:00 to 4:00PM at Painting with a Twist, 8736 E State Rd 70 Bradenton, FL 34202. Located in Ranch Lake Plaza (Goodwill Plaza). We will be painting a beautiful sparkle Menorah that you will get to keep. Bring wine if you like! Teens welcome too. $25.00 per person. Register online by clicking here: www.paintingwithatwist.com/ or contact by contacting PWAT (941) 777-4750
New at Temple Beth El!
Broadcasts of 92ndStreet Y presentations and conversations by some of the foremost Jewish people and prominent Israeli leaders of our time.
Wednesday, November 15th- 7:00 pm US Supreme Court Justice, Ruth Baden Ginsburg
in Conversation with Charlie Rose
Light refreshments provided - no charge ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Our next Havdalah will be on Saturday, November 18th at 5:30 pm.
This will be a musical Havdalah
Scheduled musicians are young (HS aged) talented musicians. Do not miss this!!
Pot luck. Bring a dairy OR meat dish to share.
SAVE THE DATES -
Movie "Denial" followed by 92nd St podcast
with Debbie Lipstadt-Wed Dec 6th 5:00 pm
Family Chanukah Menorah Lighting - Friday, Dec 15th 7:30 pm
Downtown Chanukah - Monday, Dec 18th at Riverwalk 6:00 pm
TEMPLE BETH EL GALA/DINNER DANCE, SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 3RD 6 pm.HONORING "TEMPLE BETH EL PAST - PRESENT - FUTURE"at IMG Golf & Country Club".Watch for more information
Exec. Vice President
Immediate Past President
Publicity & Social Media
Board Members at Large
Dr. Robyn Spirtas
Marilyn Steinberg/Jean Ellis
We are looking for people to participate in a committee or help out at events.
Call the temple if interested.
It is customary to light a yahrzeit candle on the anniversary of a death. The candle is lit the evening before and burns for 24 hours. It is also a Jewish custom and part of the foundation of Judaism to perform an act of tzedakah or charity, to honor the memory of the deceased. To make a donation in the name of your loved one, go to www.templebethelbradenton.com or send your check to 5150 Peridia Blvd E, Bradenton, Fl. 34203
Services November 3rd & 4th
Sharon Carlson IMO Edward Ger
Dr. Sophie Reiner IMO Dr. Otto Schorr
Services November 10th & 11th
Linda & Dr. Craig Hoffman IMO Mae Samson
Services November 17th & 18th
Arnold Klein IMO Shirley Klein
Robert Powell IMO Albert Marcado
Sandy Clark IMO Helen Kleinman
Susie Konicov IMO Hanna Weinberg
Dr. Lois Gerber IMO Dr. Murray Gerber
Services November 24th & 25th
Paul Stah IMO Robert Reeves
Sandy Clark IMO Anna Kleinman
Linda Hoffman IMO Ruby R. Samson
Florence Shulman IMO Leonard S. Shulman
Services December 1st & 2nd
Alex & Iris Intrator IMO Rita Sweet
Lionel Friedman IMO Rose Friedman
Dr. Robyn Spirtas IMO Flora Elkin
Please see our Temple supporter, Jay Givarz at Fidelity Bank
for all your mortgage needs.
SISTERHOOD - CHALLAH & ONEG
Joy Yelin -
SIMCHA GRAM CARDS FOR BIRTHDAY, ANNIVERSARY,
GET WELL, OR CONGRATULATIONS and SYMPATHY CARDS
Marlena Johnsky Jean Ellis
Thank you to all who made Kol Nidre/High Holiday Donations
and Yizkor book donations.
TBE sends Birthday, Anniversary, Bar/Bat Mitzvah and other celebration “Simcha-grams” to members in honor of their special day. This is a wonderful way to contribute to your Synagogue and to send your TBE family good wishes. This is also an easy way for our Synagogue to make extra money, so please take the time to fill this out. To have your name included in the congratulatory card, just print this form and circle those names you wish to be included on and enclose $2.00 per name. A card will be mailed to those individuals prior to their special day.
Names must be received at the office by the 20th of the month prior to the birthday or anniversary.
2 Robyn Spirtas
3 Sandy Clark
3Jordin and Jack Karubian (2009)
8 Pearl Friedman
8 Jerry Koff
16 Joshua Leuchter
18 Lisa Leuchter
20 Betty Klein
20 Judy Alpert
25 Cindi Zamikoff
25Dara Jean Karubian (2007)
27 Shana Danziger
24Linda & Craig Hoffman
29 Marv & Marion Howard
Your Name ____________________________________________
How would you like your Signature on card? ________________________________________
# of Names Selected @ $2.00 each _________ Check total:______________________
In the memo area of your check write: Simcha Gram and send by the 20th of the month prior to the simcha month to: Temple Beth El Attention: Simcha Gram, 5150 Peridia Blvd E. Bradenton, Fl 34203
If we have somehow overlooked your Simcha or made an error in printing the date, please accept our apologies and call the temple office at 941-755-4900 so that we may update our records.